Imagine it’s your wedding day and as you get ready you begin to think about how much your life is about to change. You’re about to begin a new chapter one where your bond becomes better or worse. This is the time that will test your faith. But it’s time she’s (you’re) about to walk down the aisle. As you see her coming (you walk down) you see every girl (guy) you’ve ever dated, slept with, cheated with, built an emotional relationship while you were building you guys’ follow behind her (waiting for you at the alter). You are currently in your biggest nightmare and you don’t know how to escape. You begin to wonder if everyone sees what you see and better yet if the person you’re about to give the rest of your life to sees. You brought it all with you all the past relationships you never talked about, the deep lies you hid from everyone around you. You’re exposed, you’re naked and now you have to decide to call off this life time commitment or wait and explain to the person you ‘love’ who and why each of them are here with you.
Hiding the secrets of your past, present, and future comes easy to some but not easy to all. Imagine if life was like this, the day it was time to finally say I do and every old and new fling are at the alter with you. They are there because that is each person you’ve gave a piece of yourself to. You have to now share every piece of you with as much or as little with the last person you want to spend your life with. Now imagine if you had no one except the one person you loved waiting for you and the other person had many would you be able to love them the same, will you be able to see just that person or will you see them and everyone else every time you look at them.
We have become a generation that has normalized giving ourself away. We have lowered our standards of who we are to be loved how we accept and not how we should be loved. We have lost value in things that are so valuable such as love because media has made it so easy to double tap, swipe, and devalue what love actually is. We are coming from generations who have never been loved and when we ask how do you love and no one can quite give a direct answer in how we should love one another. We all have an ‘idea’ of what we assume love to be but can we show what we speak or is it just broken words that are feed to use since birth “I love you”
